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Friday, December 10, 2004
Muh: A Ramble
Last night I was supposed to meet my friend Cara in Chestnut Hill (a surprisingly quaint and nice place to shop, considering it's a section of Philly) for dinner and some window/Christmas shopping. It ended up being rainy and really blechy out, so we decided to reschedule.

I ended up just going home and hanging out with myself all night. This doesn't really bother me. I've never really had a problem with staying in more than I go out or spending time alone. Sometime I wonder if I should have a problem with it. For instance, my housemate came home, went out, came home, and went out again at around 10pm and came home around 2am I think. To me, coming in that late on a regular basis (which she does) on a night when I have to work the next morning (which she does) just means walking around the whole next day feeling grumpy, and unpleasantly like all I want to do is sleep. But she seems happy. She has a ton of friends, mainly guys, her mobile phone is always ringing, etc... As a young woman, should I want this?

I'd say I have about 5 close friends that I hang out with on a semi-frequent basis. None of them really know each other, so I'm usually hanging out with one at a time. This suits me and my personality well, I think. Of course I have a longer set of acquaintances...Blah blah blah.

Sometimes I wonder, though. As in, yes, you should "consider your life happy and on track even if it doesn't involve a mortgage or a man," and I'm not terribly worried about the mortgage part. But a man would be nice. I have a sneaking suspicion that you have to go out to meet people. Everyone will tell you "it's when you stop looking that it always happens." Well that's all well and good, but somehow I don't think a guy is going to come knock on my door and ask to sit next to me while I knit scarves in my flannel pajamas.

The last time I went out out, some over-hairsprayed, big haired, New Jersey chick thought I was cramping her humping style on the dance floor and poured her beer over my shoulder. This is not fun. I did not meet any guys.

We all know, or can guess, how my Match.com experiences went...

So I stay in, occasionally meeting a friend for dinner or trolling a bookstore. I think I am doomed to singlehood.
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  • At 8:37 AM, Blogger Amanda said…

    You don't have to be the social butterfly your housemate is but you do have to go out occasionally in order to up the chances of meeting someone. You just have to find what's comfortable for you. And find comfort with yourself. It's when you're happy and comfortable being on your own, that somehow makes you more attractive and noticeable to the opposite sex. People tell you when you're not looking that's when you'll find someone and this is why. It happened to me that way, as well. I was sick of dating and all the mind games and decided I wasn't going to actively pursue the opposite sex. I was content being with my friends and that's when I met my husband-to-be. I was even reluctant to leave that comfort zone and chance anything with him. And we'll be married 15 years on Jan. 5.

     
  • At 1:40 PM, Blogger bella said…

    I'm pretty much right there with you. Just last week I finally went out-out with a friend after meeting a mutual friend for dinner. She got to drinking more than usual and got a bit... well you know. So she would twist in a way that her back was to me and I could not hear anything being said to the guys sitting near us and it just turned me off the rest of the night, plus I had only a couple of drinks as I was driving and could not wait to go home to my puppy who pays me 100% attention!! Otherwise, it's usally a dinner/movie thing with her and other friends already married or single mom's... which really doesn't give much opportunity to meet someone. I really have not ventured into match.com although a few have suggested I should try. Ugh... I just get tired of it all.

     
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